Can complete balance ever be accomplished? It’s a question I’ve been asking myself all summer.
We’ve all seen the shows, read the books, and listened to the podcasts about living your best life and finding a way to balance all your various responsibilities.
As of the time I’m writing this post, my plan to redesign and relaunch this blog is 4 months overdue. And whenever I’m asked what’s causing the delay I always think about everything else I am currently trying to balance. A full-time career, part time studying, a fun social life, going to the gym, and the occasional but very necessary Netflix time that any introvert needs to stay sane.
So, I find myself asking, is it just me? Or why do I have such a difficult time finding balance. When I focus on work and study my social life inevitably fails and the opposite is true as well. When I go out and have fun with my friends, I’m taking that time away from books I should be reading. And I haven’t even mentioned scheduling time for photoshoots, editing pictures, and writing articles for this blog.
I can admit, my time management could use some tightening up, I love sleep far too much. And like any typical perfectionist, I’m also an avid procrastinator. But, I can’t help but think there’s a bit more to this conundrum. I was recently listening to a podcast about this very issue (check out GETTIN’ GROWN) and one of the hosts, Dr. Keia had a perspective I don’t hear very often.
Perfect balance simply does not exist.
Our life can be split into different seasons, and in some seasons, you work like crazy while in others you rest and reap the rewards of all your earlier work. This is a theory I can get behind. After all, my future 80-year-old self is relying on my current 25-year-old self to go out in the world, kick ass and make money so I don’t have to work when I’m old and frail.
But what about balance? Treat yo’ self? Live while you’re young? Honestly, I’m not too sure. I think there certainly needs to be some fun while you work but it won’t be balanced. I’ll have to miss out on some night outs and girl’s trips. FOMO (fear of missing out) can be difficult to deal with especially in your twenties, but I think even worse than FOMO is being unhappy at 80 and wishing you’d done things differently when you were younger.
Of course, this all depends on your current priorities. For me it may be work while someone else needs to prioritize family time. Whatever it may be, I think it’s important to let go of the myth that we can accomplish perfect balance. All it does is make me feel super lazy and inept. I wonder how Oprah manages her time? I assume she’s in the season to reap the benefits of her earlier hustle.
As for whether I’m going to continue this blog, that is TBD…
Xoxo - B